Life Update

Before I get into the actual topic (which I’m typing up on wordpress and won’t be editing), I’d like to call attention to my Now Page. Basically, if you ever wanna know what’s been taking up my time, head over there and you’ll find it.

The last couple of months have been incredible on my side. I met some incredible people and got very close to others I’ve known for a longer time, but had never actually sat down to talk one on one to. This stronger contact with people and closer relationships I started leading during the time brought me back to a Vinni I used to be: the Vinni I was when I started off the website.

This Vinni is someone I like much more than who I’d been for the longest time until then. I (re-)shifted my focus from coffee into reading, self improvement and building stronger relationships, which is frankly much more worthwhile. I stopped telling myself I’d write and started working on my list of “topics I’ll get to eventually,” starting with one that’s getting close to first draft completion. Stopped trying to get up early every morning and started, well, actually doing it.

And as it is when you start spending time with more worthwhile things, I started getting ideas, my brain started racing. Three things will be changing on the website in the very near future:

  • The newsletter:
    • No more “feed-type” emails. Instead, I’ll be sending an email every Monday with some inspiration for the week. A minimum of three and maximum of five items. Those will be things I’ve found worthwhile and would like to share, maybe books, articles, quotes, whatever calls my attention.
  • A “books” section:
    • Those who followed me from the start will remember I had a “book” section on the website. I eventually discontinued it as it proved to be lazy content. Well, I’m picking it back up, but in a different format. I’ll try to distill most of what I learn from each book into directives1 and publish on a new section of the website that’s still in the works. I’ll announce it on my new newsletter (yeah, I know what I did there) when it’s up.
  • Articles:
    • I promise myself I’ll always have an “Ask Vinni article” in the works. Please refer to my Now page for more information on the topic I’ll be researching and writing about. Book and article recommendations are always more than welcome.

Looking back on what happened over the last two years, I attribute a lot of the struggles I faced to my lack of work. I worked behind a counter, yes, but I didn’t work for myself. I didn’t create. Now, looking back, I see how necessary it is. The quality of my work is still not quite where I’d like it to be, but that’s ok. The only way to make better work is to go through more volume, make more mistakes, get back up and keep learning.

There’s one quote from Marcus Aurelius that always pulled me, but I never understood why, I never understood what it exactly meant. I still couldn’t explain it, but I feel like I understand it now.

“To stand up straight, not straightened.”

I hope you’re as excited for this new stage as I am.

Time

Before I left home, my dad gave me a watch.

He said I should give things time. I kept rushing, wanted time to go by faster and faster by the minute. I wanted to jump years ahead, get to the “fun part of life.”

I didn’t understand it then, and sometimes still refuse to understand it now, but time is gonna pass no matter what, and it’s gonna run at the pace it’s always done. Just like my old watch, which ran out of batteries by now, used to tick at the same pace as every other watch.

The word “pace” is important here. The fact that we can’t influence it, even more.

It means that the minutes will turn into hours, months and eventually, in their due time, to years. It won’t go faster, we don’t get a skip button.

But we also don’t get to slow it down.

That leaves us with two options:

Either we use the time, or we waste it.

It’s not who you are, it’s what you do

Every so often, we may fall into the trap of wishing people could see inside our minds. See what we truly think but can’t express, what we’d like to do but haven’t put the hours into just yet. We wish they could see all of our yet unfulfilled dreams, aspirations, all the good we’re yet to do for the world.

Every so often, after one interaction or another—be it with customers, friends, or even dates—I’d leave feeling a little disappointed. I thought maybe, if the person had seen what was going through my mind, it would have been different. If they knew how my day or week had been, they’d have understood why I didn’t put my best foot forward. Or maybe if they had just seen what I thought about saying but didn’t say. Yes, I know how self centered and irrational that thought is.

Sharpness of Mind

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Recent research for my “The Way of the Warrior” series has led me to, among many things, intensify my training routine and dedicate myself more and more to my workouts.

In reading more deeply about the history of warriors—from rise to fall—I’ve realized that, although there are many things that contributed to their failures, the biggest one in almost every single instance was when they stopped fighting.

What? So you’re saying that war is actually good?