Ask Vinni

Longer, well researched posts primarily focused on philosophy, psychology and self improvement. Topics I've mulled over for weeks. Irregularly updated.


Essays and other writings

Shorter, weekly articles on principles and thoughts that have been in my mind for a couple of days. Contradictory and rough, evolving as I do.

It’s not who you are, it’s what you do

Every so often, we may fall into the trap of wishing people could see inside our minds. See what we truly think but can’t express, what we’d like to do but haven’t put the hours into just yet. We wish they could see all of our yet unfulfilled dreams, aspirations, all the good we’re yet to do for the world.

Every so often, after one interaction or another—be it with customers, friends, or even dates—I’d leave feeling a little disappointed. I thought maybe, if the person had seen what was going through my mind, it would have been different. If they knew how my day or week had been, they’d have understood why I didn’t put my best foot forward. Or maybe if they had just seen what I thought about saying but didn’t say. Yes, I know how self centered and irrational that thought is.

Less, Better


I like coffee. I also talk about it a lot. Because of that, it surprises others that I don’t drink it every day.

The same goes for craft beers, wine, and tea.

When those topics come up, I often hear that I must be rich to afford something like that regularly. It often shocks me and whomever I’m talking to when we put it to paper and find that in fact, I spend only a fraction more than they do on the same things.

Coffee and the Pursuit of Excellence



Over the past few months, this word has taken on an increasingly important role in my life. Those who know me know I’ve always drank the “black” liquid in one form or another. It was at the background of some of the most memorable conversations I’ve had throughout my life.

Let Me Compete, Let Me Win, and Please, Please Let Me Lose


We don’t actively notice how big of a role competition plays in our culture. We go about our days like normal, ideally trying to do and be our best, not noticing the amount of times we get taken advantage of or take advantage of a situation or someone. I have the belief that we’re all trying to win one thing or another. It simply makes sense, doesn’t it? That we want the best for ourselves and those around us and if we’re put to test, we’ll do our damndest to ensure that it’s happening, even if it means that someone gets the short end of the stick.

The Impossible List


In my last relationship (at the time of writing), my girlfriend at the time consistently pushed me to write down a bucket list. She had had hers for a long time and already checked some things off. It was a big thing for her, she was very serious about accomplishing everything she had written down in one moment of her life.

And couldn’t understand why I didn’t have one. Couldn’t understand why I refused to write mine down, especially when we would often talk about plans for the future and things we wanted to accomplish at one point or another in our lives.

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