In my last relationship (at the time of writing), my girlfriend at the time consistently pushed me to write down a bucket list. She had had hers for a long time and already checked some things off. It was a big thing for her, she was very serious about accomplishing everything she had written down in one moment of her life.
And couldn’t understand why I didn’t have one. Couldn’t understand why I refused to write mine down, especially when we would often talk about plans for the future and things we wanted to accomplish at one point or another in our lives.
My argument was that I had it all in my head, besides, it wasn’t that important. I was moving to achieve my goals anyway and they were changing constantly, so why should I care to write something down?
I believe we both misunderstood each other’s points.
While I was telling her why I didn’t wanna write a bucket list, she was asking me why I didn’t have an impossible list1.
And I didn’t understand the slight difference between the two until today. I didn’t understand that an impossible list is supposed to be fluid and evolve with us as we change and grow. That it’s supposed to grow larger and larger and we check things off. We’re always exposing ourselves to new experiences, so why stick to whichever piece of writing from any time other than the present?
With that new mindset, I spent quite a few hours going over exactly what I wanna accomplish and writing them down. I’m making it public both to hold myself accountable and to hopefully inspire others to pursue the impossible.
You can find my impossible list here.