Ask Vinni

Longer, well researched posts primarily focused on philosophy, psychology and self improvement. Topics I've mulled over for weeks. Irregularly updated.


Essays and other writings

Shorter, weekly articles on principles and thoughts that have been in my mind for a couple of days. Contradictory and rough, evolving as I do.

Is equality just?

In my last post I outlined a few fundamental flaws of how humans perceive each other and how to remedy that. Conversations that followed had me thinking about the difference between equality and fairness.

Does treating everyone like “us” mean we’ll be treating everyone equally? Does it mean doing the same for all of them, seeing them with the same amount of respect, dedicating the same amount of our time to them?

The We-They Fallacy


Father and Mother, and Me,
Sister and Auntie say
All the people like us are We,
And every one else is They.
And They live over the sea,
While We live over the way,
But-would you believe it? – They look upon We
As only a sort of They!
All good people agree,
And all good people say,
All nice people, like Us, are We
And every one else is They:
But if you cross over the sea,
Instead of over the way,
You may end by (think of it!) looking on We
As only a sort of They!

Rudyard Kipling

Call it empathy, call it compassion, call it warmth. Call it what you want, but if there’s one thing we all need to learn, it’s perspective taking.

Trigger Warning


There have been several things rampant over the last few years, but the one that worries me most (except for climate change), is how people have been refusing to feel offended. Not in a healthy, “I see your point but it doesn’t affect me” way, but in a coddling, overprotective way.

“Don’t teach rape law1 say anything about sex 2 anything related to violence3 and oh, I also don’t like the word ‘meat.’4
Warning: you will be triggered.

Mental Models

mind photo

If there’s one thing that always fascinated me, it’s the concept of using psychology to influence our behavior. Of using our minds to create a certain image of the world that will cause us to act and live differently. And yes, this is as pseudo-sciency as it gets.

Take for example one of the beliefs that most define me: I believe that nothing that happens is ever bad. The good in a seemingly bad thing can be a learning experience or getting our asses away from bigger trouble, even if it’s not apparent at first sight. I believe the universe knows best what is good for us and whatever happens, happens with that as its purpose.

That of course puts me in a group that everyone refers to as “the optimists.”

On “The Way of the Warrior”


Whenever we try out something we never did before, we learn a few things.

Yesterday (as the time of writing) is when I finished the last edit in the final “The Way of the Warrior” article, just two days before my deadline to publish it. Since even before finishing it, I’ve wanted to write an extra piece on the matter. Nothing about the topic itself, but more about the process of researching, writing and editing. I might make this a tradition for whenever I finish a big series, or I might not. Only time will tell.

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